Monday, May 31, 2010

Does a broken heart heal?

I recently had someone ask me if broken hearts heal.

I have thought about this question long and hard over the past while. My response: I don’t think that I would say broken hearts ever fully heal. I think once broken the heart will always be broken. It may scar over but the sting will always be there. We give a piece of our heart to everyone we let inside. And once the heart is given it is given you can’t take it back. You may not agree but something to think about. We love someone with our whole heart or give a place in our heart to someone. Let’s say this person hurts, they break your heart. Now instead of saying you love them with your whole heart. You say you have a strong dislike or even hate for this person. This hate where does it originate? The answer: In the heart. Therefore even though you haven’t given them a piece of your heart in love you have now given them a piece of your heart in hate, pain, or sorrow. And the scar that is created from such an injury will always be there reminding us of the source that created it. This piece of your heart will always belong to the person it was first given. I do believe that we learn from our broken hearts we become more aware of who we give parts of our heart to. That broken hearts teach us how to truly love. We learn to more fully understand the meaning of love. That love isn’t always an overwhelming feeling of joy and happiness that continues on and on forever and ever. But it is a learning process one that results from pain and forgiveness, happiness and sorrow. You can not have love without the moments sorrow. The difference, someone who truly loves you in return will do whatever they can to fill in the cracks that they unfortunately create before the crack gets deeper and deeper eventually resulting in a broken heart. You will do the same in return. There will be patience learned for others as well as for yourself. There will be patience afforded you as well because let’s face it we aren’t perfect and eventually you will create the sting of the heart in someone else. Through this process of apology and forgiveness, fault and understanding, the bond between two will grow and become stronger creating love and respect for each other. But if a break happens and one party does not to repair the damage done. The damage will forever stay there in the heart. Nobody else can heal the break of another. All one can do with an unrepaired break is let it scar and try to allow themselves to open themselves up and let another in.

Each experience in our lives leaves an impression on our souls, hearts, and minds, some of these experiences result in pain and overwhelming sorrow. People have said that healing comes with time. Time heals all wounds. I however say Time goes on and through time we learn how to put things in perspective and use the pain for our own growth in life. The pain will never fully dissipate but that it can become a strength for us if we let it.

The heart is the center of our emotions; the breeding ground for our feelings. Whether you love or dislike someone it originates in the heart.

Just my thoughts.

1 comment:

  1. Very nicely put. I think it's pretty inevitable that the people you love the most and are the closest to you will hurt you at one point or another. It's up to the two involved to work together to heal past hurts and make the relationship stronger because of them.

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